Excessive
sexual focus on an object of fixation.
That's what this site is
about. Everyone has their own little fetishes. Some have more than
others. Do you know what your's are? Here are some terms and
definitions from the fetish "language".
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Acrotomophilia
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The person is
sexually aroused by the sight of an amputation usually of a
whole arm or leg. |
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Adolescentilism |
The person is
aroused by impersonating both the dress and behavior of an
adolescent. |
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Andromimetophilia |
A woman who is
sexually aroused by impersonating a man. They purposefully
look like and act like a man. |
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Apotemnophilia |
This person is
sexually aroused by having a part of their body amputated
either by themselves or someone else. The memory of the
amputation can serve to arouse them for years. It is the act
of having an extremity amputated that is arousing; thus,
they have to be awake during the process. |
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Asphyxiophilia |
This is sexual
arousal caused by loss of control over your ability to
breathe. Self strangulation or allowing another person to
asphyxiate you. |
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Autagonistophilia |
Unlike
exhibitionism where the person intentionally exposes their
genitals to an unsuspecting stranger, in this paraphilia the
person creates situations in which other people could see
them in the nude if the person wanted to. For example, it
would be like leaving your curtains open and walking around
the house naked in hopes that someone would peep in the
windows. It is the thought that someone may be watching that
is sexually arousing. |
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Autassassinophilia |
The person is
sexually aroused by putting themselves in situations in
which they may be killed. They really have to feel they are
in danger in order to be sexually aroused. Unfortunately,
many of them get killed in the process. |
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Autonepiophilia |
This is the same
thing as infantilism.
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Biastophilia |
In this paraphilia
the person is sexually aroused by the idea of being raped.
This is scripted and planned out ahead of time with a
partner. The person does not actually want to be raped by a
strange. |
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Catheterophila |
The person is
sexually aroused by the insertion of a catheter. |
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Chrematistophilia |
This person can
only become sexually aroused if they are being blackmailed
into it. |
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Coprophilia |
Smearing human
feces on yourself or having someone smear it on you causing
sexual arousal. |
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Coprophagia |
Eating and
ingesting human feces. |
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Ephebophilia |
This is a form of
pedophilia, but the person is very specific in the size,
shape, and amount of body hair the pre-pubescent child has.
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Erotophonophilia |
These people are
dangerous. They are sexually aroused by attempts not just
thoughts of killing someone. |
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Formicophilia |
Sexual arousal is
caused by having insects crawl on their genitals. |
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Gerontophilia |
The person is only
sexually aroused by a significantly older person. There has
to be at least a 15 year difference between their ages. |
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Gynemimetophilia |
A person who is
sexually aroused by a female impersonator. |
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Hybristophilia |
Sexual relations
with a convicted criminal. |
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Hyphephilia |
Touching or rubbing
a human or non human object is essential for achieving
sexual arousal. |
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Hypoxphilia |
The same as
asphyxiophilia. |
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Infantilism |
Dressing as an
infant and acting the role of a child under two years old is
sexually arousing. This can including some or all body hair
and the hiring of a nurse or nanny to take care of you. |
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Kleptophilia |
Similar to
kleptomania, kleptophilia results in sexual arousal from
stealing not just thrill seeking. |
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Klismaphilia |
Getting an enema is
sexually arousing. More liquid is associated with greater
pleasure. |
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Mixophilia |
The person likes to
watch their partner or themselves engage in sexual activity.
Usually this means watching themselves in a mirror. |
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Morphophilia |
Peculiar body
shapes and sizes are sexually arousing such as heavy, short,
dwarfism, etc. |
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Mysophilia |
The person is
sexually aroused by dirt, mud, or filth. |
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Narratophilia |
Telling dirty
stories is sexually arousing. |
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Necrophilia |
Engaging in sexual
activities with dead people. |
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Nepiophilia |
The person is
sexually aroused by infants. This can range from newborns to
about two years old. |
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Olfactophilia |
The person is
sexually aroused by body smells. Usually inserting finger
anus, vagina, etc. and smelling it during sex. |
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Pictohilia |
Watching X-rated
films is sexually arousing. |
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Raptophilia |
Same as
biastophilia. |
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Scoptophilia |
Same as mixophilia. |
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Somnophilia |
The person can only
maintain sexual arousal while having sex with someone who is
sleeping. If the person wakes up they loose interest. |
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Stigmatophilia |
Body piercing and
tattooing but not ear piercing is sexually arousing. |
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Symphorphilia |
Natural disasters
are sexually arousing.
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Telephonicophilia |
Talking dirty on
the phone or being talked to lewdly. |
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Urophilia |
Being urinated on
or urinating on someone. Golden showers |
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Zoophilia |
The person wants to
be treated like an animal wearing a collar and even eating
out of an animals dish. This is different from bestiality in
which the person wants to have sex with an animal.
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AGE PLAY |
Role-playing
the persona of someone substantially younger (or sometimes
older) than your actual age. |
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BONDAGE |
Physical
materials applied to a submissive or slave to restrain their
ability to move and/or to otherwise restrict them. Also, the
act of placing the submissive or slave in such materials. |
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BOTTOM |
A slang term
for a submissive and/or masochist. Many people use the word
"bottom" to mean specifically someone who enjoys being given
various sensations, as opposed to a "submissive", who enjoys
being controlled. |
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BOTTOM SPACE |
The
psychological "head space" or attitude of being submissive. |
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BOY |
A submissive
(often, but not always, male) who relates to their dominant
in a child-to parent mode. More common among gay men and
lesbians. |
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BRAT |
A submissive
who enjoys rebelling in a childlike way against their
dominant. Brats are fairly common in the spanking scene. |
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CONSENSUAL |
An activity
done with the consent of adults competent to give that
consent. One of the central features of SM play.. |
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COUNTING GAMES |
Rituals
engaged in during whipping, flogging, spanking , or during
other forms of flagellation, in which the submissive (or
slave) is required to keep count f the number of strokes
delivered, often thanking the Master after each one and
asking for more. Example: "Thats five, Sir. Thank you
Sir, Sir, please may I have another, Sir?" |
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DADDY |
A dominant (usally,
but not always, male) who has a submissive "boy" and who
relates to that submissive in a parent/child mode. More
common among gay men and lesbians, but gaining currency
among heterosexuals and bisexuals as well. |
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DISCIPLINE |
Training by
a Master in how they wish their submissive or slave to
behave. Also, the punishment and correction administered by
the Master when the submissive fails to act in the proper
manner. |
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DOMINANT |
One who
enjoys assuming control. One who decidees what happens and
when. A dominant may or may not be sadistic. |
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FLAGELLATION |
The general
act of one person striking another, usually in an erotic
context. Includes spanking, paddling, flogging and whipping. |
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FLOGGER |
A
multi-tailed whip in which the tails are long, flat strips
of leather or a similarly flexible material. |
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HUMILIATION |
Activities which cause the submissive to
feel shame, embarrassment, or degradation. Varies widely
from person to person. Possibly psychologically explosive..
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MASTER |
A term for a
male dominant. Often used as a term of address, such as
"Master Tom". It is often considered somewhat rude to
address a man by this term without being first given
permission to do so. |
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MASTER-slave RELATIONSHIP |
An ongoing
SM relationship in which the slave is submissive to a male
dominant. |
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MONDAY MORNING REBOUND
SYNDROME |
Feelings of
remorse, disgust, fear, and so forth that sometimes emerge
hours or days after a person willingly, and often lustily,
takes part in SM play. |
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MUMMIFICATION |
Immobilizing
bondage, usally done by wrapping the submissive in many
coils of materials such as plastic wrap, or by placing the
submissive in a body bag designed for this purpose. |
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NOVICE |
A person
just beginning to learn about and explore SM. Often treated
with special kindness and attention by the more experienced
members of the community or by the MASTER. |
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SADIST |
As loosely
defined with the SM Community, a person who specifically
enjoys administering pain. A person may be dominant without
being sadistic. It's also possible to be sadistic without
being dominant. |
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SADOMASOCHISM |
A rather
vague term referring generally to fantasies and experiences
regarding the introduction of domination, submission,
bondage, sadism, masochism, humiliation, and related
activities into erotic play. |
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SAFEWORD |
A specific
word or other signal used, by prior agreement, to indicate
that things are "really" becoming too intense for the
person. Usally used by the submissive or slave, but may also
be used by the dominant. "Safeword" itself is sometimes used
at SM parties to signal a desire for outside intervention. |
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SLAVE |
A person who
has an on-going, structured relationship with a dominant or
Master. One who assumes the submissive role, often in a
highly developed and committed way to a particular person.
Cling someone "my slave" generally indicates a relatively
sophisticated, ongoing relationship between the two of you. |
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SUBMISSIVE |
One who
yields control. One who obeys orders adn may permit
themselves to be bound if doing so pleases their dominant or
Master.xt |
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TOP'S DISEASE |
An
unwarranted attitude of superiority taken by a domiant.
Believing that bottoms are somehow inferior and treating
them so in either obvious or subtle ways. Usually a sign of
insecurity or ignorance. Dominants who suffer from Top's
Disease often (surprise, surprise) complain about how hard
it is to find people willing to play with them. a mirror
image of this syndrome is called Bottom's Disease. |
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TWO SQUEEZES |
A "squeeze
signal" between players used to non-verbally signal that,
"I'm all right." |
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WORSHIP |
To adore the
personage of the dominant. Often combined with performing
some service to the dominant's body such as massaging,
kissing, or licking their feet or boots, massaging their
body, bathing them. Explicitly sexual activity, such as
performing oral sex on the dominant, may or may not be a
part of such play. |